This reboot metaphor may wear itself out eventually but so far it’s been kind of funny. For instance, do we want a soft or hard reboot?
A soft reboot is performed the way you are “supposed” to do it. Uh huh. Right.
For a soft reboot, select “Shut Down” or “Restart.” R always wants to shut down. I always want to restart. Kind of that man/woman thing, or maybe it’s the Midwesterner/New Yorker thing.
The computer will then shut itself down. Clicking “Restart” makes it boot up without further intervention from you. Don’t I wish.
Perform a hard reboot by pushing the computer’s power button and holding it until the computer shuts down. Wait 45 seconds and restart the computer by pushing the power button again. I’ve just spent 20 years trying to find R’s restart button after disagreements have ended in limbo.
You may have to start up in safe mode, but that also allows you the chance to restart properly or work on programs in a safer way. Never has a truer thing been said.
I think we need to figure out what our safe mode is.
Hat tip to eHow for the rebooting instructions.
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I really applaud this initiative and your willingness to take it public. It is so easy to fall into patterns of behavior and to let them become default mode (more computer-speak!). Standing back and asking if this is really what you want for the next twenty years is something most people shy from because of the uncomfortable conversations that have to be gone through to make things different. You have really got me thinking — thanks!
Ali, thanks so much for the words of support and taking the time to share them. Default mode — good choice of phrase!
Tammy, I’m in! I’m especially in because at 23 years married, we’re got some undergrowth to clear out too. And the other reason…I have a sneaky feeling another book is getting born…
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Lisa, I’m so glad you came by and will be following my journey at the Reboot. 23 years! I have to say that 20 years have gone by in the blink of an eye and I love my guy more every year.
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Hi Tammy — I love the reboot concept and look forward to reading further posts on your journey. One of my students talks about rebooting in terms of her ability to re-center herself when she’s about to become reactive. I like the idea of rebooting a relationship. Good ki!
Good morning, Judy. I can see how well the rebooting idea works with re-centering and I suspect that the year-long rebooting experiment will require both R and me to do that very thing at times! Thanks for stopping in my new space.
Ali, thanks so much for the words of support and taking the time to share them. Default mode — good choice of phrase!